And did you see my reply in that thread?
Especially the bit about Nikon’s software not being able to show the intended point if no focus was obtained.
Personally, I have changed to “back-button-focusing”, where the shutter no longer activates auto-focus, meaning that you have to press the “AF-ON” button separately.
For me, it separates choosing point of focus from framing and measuring exposure so, onc I have set the focus, I am free to change framing without fear of the focus points picking up on something nearer or further.
I also set the AF mode to AC-C, which means that, should I want following focus on a moving object, all I have to do is hold the back button down instead of releasing it for static shots.
Well, it works for me but it did take me a few weeks of practice to get the hang of it.